I’ve been watching Masters of Sex (I know, I’m a bit behind the news), and in one episode Dr. William Masters is shocked by a couple he sees coming out of their hotel room after what sounds like a hot sex session; they look to be in their 70s. The sexual revolutionist’s mind was blown. (And this is just the tip of the iceberg if you’re at all familiar with his and Virginia Johnson’s work).
Sixty some years later, and it’s not shocking at all. Boomers who were part of that whole sexual revolution have expectations about their bodies and sexual expression that previous generations never had. We all are looking younger, feeling younger, and acting younger. And most are not willing to table sex, despite hormonal shifts or other physical maladies.
In fact, with age comes experience. We know what pleasure feels like or at least have a sense of what it should feel like. We are often less self-conscious about our bodies. And if we aren’t yet practiced in asking for what we want, it’s certainly about time that we were.
Don’t give up on great sex! Desire never has to die. So give up what you think you know, and open yourself up to having some playful fun again. Here are 5 simple ways to spice up your sex life after age 50.
1. No more quickies!
Take your time. Remember that foreplay can happen at dinner as you engage the senses of sight, smell, and taste. And if you listen to music and brush up against your partner while you cook, you also engage the senses of sound and touch. These are the makings of a great beginning, middle, and maybe even ending!
2. Keep yourself limber.
Take a partner yoga class together. Keeping yourself limber outside the bedroom has the potential to keep the creative juices flowing inside the bedroom.
3. Shower together.
Make your shower extra steamy. Not that quick morning one, though that can be fun and get the juices going for later on, but a long, luxurious one. Together. With soap. Can’t get much wetter, or more slippery than that.
4. Try orgasmic meditation.
Try orgasmic meditation. It is a practice that can get you super tuned into each other. There is a stroker and a strokee, and the practice involves clitoral stimulation done in a very particular way. And if I’m making you curious, here’s the way to learn more.
5. Lube, lube, and more lube!
Don’t be afraid to use lube! Forget the spit—that was maybe useful in your 20s. Yoni’s Bliss is all natural and has homeopathic ingredients that help—plus it’s odorless and tasteless. Sometimes you need a little help, and sometimes you just want it. Having it by the bedside, or wherever the adventure takes you, just gives you more options.